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You will cry for help, and He will say, ‘Here I am.’ If you remove the yoke from your midst, …. Isaiah 58:9 NASB
Christmas Eve and we were returning home from having shared a lovely Louisiana gumbo supper with some friends after the service. In our warm and cozy truck, I mentioned to Mike that the previous night our bedroom has been too hot to sleep well. I suggested, “How about we just turn off the heat in the house, so the bedroom will be nice and cold?” He nixed that idea, countering with, “just open the window a crack.” Annoyed because I didn’t think that alone would be enough to cool down the room, I said to myself, “He ‘should’ know how important sleep is to me!”
There it was, an expectation that I had projected on Mike. Only, I didn’t realize that was what I had done. But God’s perceptive eye didn’t miss it.
As the Holy Spirit would have it, our readings for Christmas Day included Isaiah 58 about the kind of fast the Lord wants his children to celebrate. The prophet puts it bluntly: we should not fast religiously or selfishly, simply to check it off our list, but enter into a fast with a heart set on worshipping our creator, sustainer and holy God.
As I worked through the first part of verse 9, I felt comforted by God’s promise to respond promptly to my cries for help with a “I’m here!”.
But then my eyes moved on to that ‘yoke business’ mentioned toward the end of that same verse. I wrote in my journal, “Father, have I placed a yoke on anyone? Am I expecting others to act a certain way?”
Last night’s conversation quickly came to mind. I DO have and I HAVE formulated expectations of Mike and other family members, and friends, as well. Do these precious people FEEL my dissatisfaction when they don’t ‘meet my standards’?
Yikes! That unarticulated but very real pressure must feel burdensome, especially on those who live with me, like Mike. Others might feel the sting of my occasional disappointment, but Mike surely notices the ‘yoke of expectation’ that I hang on him.
We fragile human beings can never satisfy the impossibly high criteria OTHERS use to evaluate us. I should know NOT to engage in that practice, since I have suffered the pain (and shame) of family members’, friends’ and bosses’ pointed dissatisfaction with me.
What is the solution?
Well, I can’t control what others think of me, but God has given me Holy Spirit power to change my thinking. He commands Christians to renovate their minds, their way of thinking and concluding through a a changing heart, one saturated by his word. And what Jesus commands, he makes possible.
Since Christmas Day, I keep reading scripture that reenforces this message. We are to hope in God, not people. ‘Hope’ can be translated in both Hebrew and Greek as ‘to expect or wait for someone to act’.
Psalm 118:8 NKJV says: It is better to trust in the LORD, than to put confidence in man.
Even Jesus didn’t trust people, because he knew them: But Jesus, on His part, was not entrusting Himself to them, because He knew all people…John 2:24 NASB
John Piper, in a recent devotional reflected on 1 John 3:23: This is His commandment, that we believe [with personal faith and confident trust] in the name of His Son Jesus Christ, and [that we unselfishly] love and seek the best for one another, just as He commanded us. NASB
He distilled John’s teaching to something I am meditating on throughout the day: Trust Jesus, Love people.
God is the only person in the universe who deserves our trust and won’t disappoint me. Shouldn’t that fact free us up to release our unfair and unverbalized expectations of people that we hold in our hearts?
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