‘You’re so needy!’
“Yep, and your point is?”
Why is it that we think something is wrong with us if we can’t do it all? I can only speak for Americans. It seems as though being needy is un-American. Since our pre-founding, we’ve grown up imbibing the ambient atmosphere of:
- pull yourself up by your own bootstraps
- you can be/do anything you want in life
- if it’s going to be, it’s up to me
- plan your work, then work your plan
- follow your passion
Actually all that rah-rah positive motivation denies the FACT that God has designed and created us AS creatures with needs. Before the fall when He created man, He called His male and female creation VERY GOOD! And they were needy, ON PURPOSE! They required human companionship, food and productive work. And they had to sleep.
As I learn to depend more on God each day, I am embracing and even liking my neediness. The Father is teaching me to request His protection, strength and wisdom in the ordinary and not just to call on Him for the ‘big things’ I can’t handle on my own. Somewhere I read that if we don’t invite God’s covering and help with the ordinary routine activities (such as cooking, driving, taking a shower without slipping, hiking/walking), then in effect we’re announcing to the Creator and Sustainer of the universe:
- I’ve got this, God!
Besides, when we DO ask Him for help in writing a blog piece, or shopping for groceries, we re-awaken ourselves to His presence and gain an occasion to thank Him, to praise Him for His grace.
A couple of weeks ago, I read this quote from a sister blogger:
“If you’re meeting your own needs, it’s quite possible you’re not meeting the right one.” (Quoted by Pippa in her blog, linked here)
That wake-up call to humility connected with an experience I read in Joyce Huggett’s book, Listening to God. Seeking spiritual counseling to deal with fearful thoughts of suicide, she staggered into a new reality. Her guide led her through a confession of the sin of wanting to kill herself and prayed for her to believe and receive God’s sure forgiveness. Then he added this: (I’ve paraphrased)
- Now that you’ve confessed to trying to meet a very real need in a sinful way..
- Let’s look at this underlying emotional need and see how we can address it in a way that is healthy and God-reliant.
That extra step turned out to be a turning point for the author and eye opening to me! It fit right in with the FACT that God has designed us as dependent, needy creatures. Dependency is woven into the fabric of life. God created us incomplete and unwise without Him, cracked jars of clay requiring His support.
As Paul boasts in 2 Cor 4:7 But we have this treasure in jars of clay, to show that the surpassing power belongs to God and not to us.
Notice also that God intends to MEET our needs, Himself! The inadequacy, or lack of confidence I feel is SUPPOSED to be the norm. Insufficient on my own, I have been created precisely to live moment by moment, dependent on God. And grateful.
So what does that look like in everyday life? I’m finding a new quality of contentment in my days. I tend to reply to myself more and more, “Well, what do you expect, Maria, from a clod of earth? Trust the Master Gardener and rejoice that HE has written the divine Plan. He has just what you need for THIS, so fret not!”
How is embracing your neediness going for you?