When I was mucking around in my anxiety, Satan’s lies slipped past my defenses and entered my mind as MY own thoughts and MY own analysis of reality.
You can call this blog post Prayer Part 5 – what happens when you don’t trust God ON whom you had cast all your worries.
A couple of months ago, I offered to share some insights I had learned about contentment at a conference I attended in June. A Saturday morning workshop for the women of my church seemed like a good idea back in July. I don’t work during the summer and I was enjoying a more leisurely-paced life when I suggested this to my pastor.
Here’s reality: School has been underway for 4 weeks now. The workshop is scheduled for 6 days from now. I still need to review and finalize the material. I didn’t realize that I was counting on VISIBLE chunks of time later in the week. Just the night before one of those chunks became rescheduled with something else – a very good something else. Nonetheless, that block of time dropped off my schedule and I had been fighting anxiety for 24 hours.
It’s GOOD to plan ahead. But we should not rely on or TRUST the provision we can plan, orchestrate and see in lieu of trusting the only true and most capable provider whose name is Jehovah Jireh – ‘the Lord will provide‘.
It was Thursday, almost 6 pm and I was en route home from Asheville having done the weekly grocery shopping. I knew that I would have very little time to relax (aka READ) before having to go to bed. There were groceries to put away, dinner to fix (albeit a simple one), my breakfast and lunch to sort, chop and prepare, dinner to enjoy with my husband and then dishes. But I was praying and believing God that He could stretch my 15 minutes or so of ‘me time’ to make it AS satisfying as 45 minutes. And I had finally turned over the workshop reduced planning time THING to God and was trusting Him in the present situation at hand.
But then Mike (who writes from home for World magazine) casually mentioned that his audio piece had aired that day. We usually grab our drinks and head downstairs to listen on the big speakers to his 4-minute technology segment he writes and records.
My first thought: This will cost me SEVEN whole minutes! And out popped GRIM WIFE!
I said tight lipped, “I don’t have time to listen right now, would you mind terribly if we listen tomorrow?” And I slid into the sin of unbelief AND idolatry.
The most important thing I could have done at that moment was value my husband and trust God to stretch the time. Instead I put MY agenda over my husband’s needs. My anxiety and panic and yes – my anger at being so limited in time began to grow as my vision took in JUST my needs and the resources I could see.
I’ll spare you the ‘bad-to-worse back and forth’ my anxiety caused my husband and me. But you can imagine the 24-hour coldness that invaded our relationship. The discouraging truth was that I was doing the very opposite of what God has been emphasizing to me over the past few weeks – trusting Him with my worries in order to be:
- clear-headed,
- single-minded and
- focused on the one and only thing that is important – His kingdom right here
God commands us to humble ourselves AND hand over our worries to take care of because we actually have MORE important work to do than our own agenda. We’re to pray.
And when we don’t, the ever-roaming enemy Satan, creeps in to devour our peace and contentment and joy in Jesus. How uncanny that this ‘fight’ happened right before a workshop that might help women step out of some unbelief in their lives….
I’m happy to report that our Father gave me a repentant heart desiring to ask my husband’s forgiveness and to get back on track doing what is in my job description and NOT what is above my pay grade.
Disclaimer: My husband IS a huge help around the house. He cleans our house every Friday since he works from home and I commute almost an hour each way to school. And it’s not like he was standing by idly while I was putting away groceries. He had gotten our produce box from the farm. He had carried in all the groceries and put away the 2nd frig stuff. Much of the chopping and prep of salads and veggies is for my breakfast and lunch.
Sep 21, 2014 @ 22:59:41
My take away is I’d like an instant editor standing next to me every moment, so the second something dumb/mean/selfish/awful comes out of my mouth, my instant editor smacks/corrects/redirects me.
Instead, God gives me my conscience to grapple and wrestle.
The other thing I’m struck by – nobody in my family EVER listens to my stuff on radio unless they happen to be in the vicinity while it airs. But conversation frequently overrides the audio. I think it’s nice you listen to Michael’s stuff. You are a NICE WIFE!
Sep 22, 2014 @ 00:25:58
Oh sweet Maria! What a vivid picture of day to day life in the eyes of women everywhere! To just find the time . . . How that echoes to every heart torn between “need” and “desire”. Isn’t it wonderful that in our ineptness He teaches, corrects and disciples us?! His Timing is just SO Perfect! 🙂 Looking forward to my prayer time for you both tomorrow. . . Hope you have an awesome week by God’s Grace! 🙂 Kim
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. Romans 12:2
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Sep 22, 2014 @ 10:54:49
Thank you for this piece.
Thomas is off to his mom’s with Steve. New house, new school, new friends. Fresh start. God is good. All the time.
Trish
On Sun, Sep 21, 2014 at 1:50 PM, Reflections on God’s Word wrote:
> Maria posted: “When I was mucking around in my anxiety, Satan’s lies > slipped past my defenses and entered my mind as MY own thoughts and MY own > analysis of reality. You can call this blog post Prayer Part 5 – what > happens when you do”